Yes labug your are correct I do mindread.
that is a major downfall in my efforts.

I thought I was doing a decent job at DBing before this hearing.

When we came home after the hearing she changed the lock on her door to keep me out. I explained that Im not sure she can keep me from any room in my house but would check with my L.

She said she was going to file charges of harassment on me for telling her what she could and could not do. I was already emotional about the hearing not angry but sad that it had to come to this.
When she said this I countered with I need to file a report because I am in fear because you were confronted by OM significant other. She said that never happened so I don't need to do it. I said I still want to just in case and it went on from there.

I know she has to deal with her choices and her anger by herself alone but I felt like W thought she was getting away with something. So I backslid into a discussion that I knew wasn't helpful. I really no longer feel the need to speak of OM again since it is out there now. The bad part is that it is not only me who suspects things but others who have seen things and felt they had to tell me. I have only discussed this with my IMC and my L and my W to some extent now. I know now that by having that discussion I have allowed my W to place the blame on me for everybody knowing instead of on herself.

I had a good session with my DB coach tonight so I am feeling a little better.


Me 47/W 34
T 16 M 13
No kids
BD 6/2013
W asked that I move out 6/2013
I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013
separate beds not much talking
Served D Complaint 5/2014
W moved out 9/27/2014