sorry to read of your sit. It/the bomb was shocking for me as well (for (3 months ago, not 4 as I wrote ... seemed longer
It funny how we all have similar feelings. Like you I was shocked & devastated. Found this site and am reading the posts suggested by Cadet as well as resources. learning that I was not to blame. I am still on roller coaster - with unpredictable crying spells, but I do feel the sense of community. You will too - visit often, we are all with you.
pbetra ---- M: 15 yrs (in 2014) BD: 6/03/2014 Infidelity ('known' from July 2014) Denied PA Feb 2015 2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact. Back briefly 2017 (after family death) Separated 2017