This is gonna help some of you and come at my expense with the IC bill: Detaching is not just about letting go, it is about surrendering. "No, you don't need to give up at this point, perhaps its about holding on less tight, less grasping. Surrender what you can't change or control. you are walking into the depths of the big conundrum of life, the strange balance between making things happen, and letting them unfold, between drive and surrender, and growing the wisdom to know the difference as the serenity prayer suggests. In this modern western world, we are obsessive about drive, and disdainful of surrender, yet the greatest wisdom traditions and mystical paths generally have it the other way. Much value on surrender and less on drive." So my C really gave me some tools as I did the hand off with the kids today (first time). She is really taking care of herself and looked just stunning in her summer shorts! After I picked my jaw off the floor I bit my tongue instead of hollering out "Woman! You truly are the fairest of all the land!" and feigned not being interested in her weekend camping trip with a bunch of "friends"..detach..let go....surrender... I gave her a happy smile and waltzed out of there. You may applause now as my combination surrendering and DBing won me this battle. I am also learning I need to pour this love that I have for her into other things so ...you guessed it I went to the library and took out a score of Marvel DC comicbook graphic novels..let my geek Gal love affair begin! The funny thing is she pretended to read comics with me when we were engaged and then stopped after we got married and forbid me to hang out with my nerd comic loving friends! So I am zen-ing out and surrendering her and our marriage and actively, aggressively working on myself more. Especially this bullyish "I am getting my own way or else" that squashed my R with her at times too. Not even physically or anything but by being a pouty man child..emotionally guilting her out...silently fuming until she relents. I know the 180 is being free and fine and letting her and others have their way of course...being healthy. Surrendering again....I will get the hang of this
Me 42 W:35 M: 14yrs T:15yrs D: 8yrs D:6yrs S:3yrs BD: "I want a D"09/03/14 Sep: 30/06/14
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
