My mom has done a wonderful job of keeping W and I focused on the boys. I have told mom a bit about going dark . She has learned now to just listen and maybe affirm some. Other than that, W is trying to tell on me... "Did you know he did this or that." "How did he find out my new address?" Etc.
W can't or won't talk to me, so she calls mom. Then, this is funny too because she blames mom some for the A just like she blames me.