I don't really think mdu's husband minds her planning things...
some people really are planners and others really aren't
my partner is not a planner...not at all...he hates planning. He likes doing and he will give suggestions for something to do and then it is up to me to plan and make it happen. He feels good because he came up with the idea and I feel good because I didn't have to think of everything.
I also believe there is a difference when you say "I am sorry. But if....then...." and "I'm sorry"
I'm sorry is the first step having the internal conversation with yourself the next time so you don't have to say you are sorry at all comes next
We all make mistakes we all should apologize
I agree....working on your anger and your triggers is the most important thing to do...for you and for your marriage
