First post, completely lost

[GoatGal]

It's OK watto, it happens to most of us.

Only an incredibly well-prepared and less emotionally invested person could have handled that situation flawlessly.

And that's what you must work towards being right now.

No single interaction will make or break this.

It is incredibly painful to hear that from her, then the dismissal from him.

Try now to calm yourself, deep breaths.... remember, you can do this.
Don't get ahead of yourself with all the things this *might* mean, like moving or D.
You don't know those are going to happen.

You're just afraid. We all are in those situations.
"What IF???" is not the question to be asking yourself right now.

"What do I know for sure, who can I count on, what are my strengths?"

Those are the questions that matter now.

Make a list of your biggest fears about this right now, then find possible solutions.
Talk yourself down like you were talking to your best friend.

Need money for rent? What are your options? Even the crazy ones.
YOU get to control how you handle your end, not him.


So, now he knows you know, or at least suspect. Is that a deal-breaker for you?

Most of us have been there too. It stinks, but trying to get your mind on positive things does help. I know it's so painful on so many levels.

Sending you a hug. ((((watto)))))))

You're gonna be OK.

---GG

PS: I've done a LOT worse and H still speaks to me. He hasn't "left" yet!