cadet - I'm so afraid of where the conflict might take us. Whenever we go through any disagreement, his response is to shut down and that is often very painful for me. So...I avoid it. Of course, I realize that divorce as a way to avoid conflict is not productive either. I guess that is why I'm here. I don't want to divorce, I love him, but I just don't know how to resolve this. My aunt has been married to my very belligerent, alcoholic uncle for 50 years. I once asked her how has she been able to do it. Her response was, "better the devil you know." They basically live separate lives, and to me that seems more painful than getting to know a different 'devil.' Reading above about the consequences of any actions I might take, has me thinking (worried). I guess I need to purchase the divorce remedy also. It certainly seems like I have a lot of homework to do.
M - 48, H - 50 M - 30, T - 33.5 D - 27, D - 26 S - 30
