Question - how do you handle W' family members if they reach out?
Any experiences/best practices to share on how to interact with WAW's family and friends if they reach out?
A good question but a tough one. Some of the advice I received for my situation: -Do respond with gratitude (follow the 'become the person only a fool would leave' philosophy). The fact they are reaching out to you indicates that they care (assume the best of intentions). -In your interactions with them always be respectful and kind. -Don't use them to influence the situation and outcome. -Don't probe them for dirt/info. on W. -Don't bad mouth your W, especially to her family. -Don't lie or cover things up to 'protect' your W. -If they do probe about the R, be honest about your position and what you want for the R but don't whine about it (I find using the validation lines: "I can see how she feels this way..." helpful for my situation) -It is okay to feel nervous about these interactions.
