So Matt, does that mean that if 25% of the pop is seeking help and 17% are considered in optimal mental health (whatever THAT is?) then 58% of the people out there are nuts?
Kind of the point, guys. Everyone has something they are working on. The question is if you are ready to find a partner that will compliment your "areas of improvement" and vice-versa. A partner that is willing to work through whatever issues arise without deciding they "are unhappy and deserve better" etc.
Not being paired with an abusive person, but somebody who can work through the issues with you. A person you like to be around. A person you...can relate to and like to be with.
Matt, you thought you found that person before. Most of us here did. I think the MLC'r thought so too.
Evidence suggests otherwise.
When that happens, we end up going into an analysis mode that rivals the search for the cure for cancer. At least in intensity.
One of the questions we have to ask, is if they are right about what they say about us. To some degree, there may be some truth in some of it. We look, we sift, and we eventually figure out what is real and what is rhetoric (common rhetoric at that).
And as we move into other relationships we find out what we have and have not really figured out to date. Like recovering from a broken arm, we heal but if we try too soon we re-injure. We also need time to re-establish trust in that broken bone and that it won't fail us if we use it.
And after a while, we forget about it. Except once in a while where we think back on that and think, "I really don't want to do that again" But we do anyway. 'Cuase we're human
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
