Thanks for the replies. The kids seem to be okay but I know they are probably still in some form of shock phase. Yes - the crazy things he says continues. He has acted more depressed than ever when I see him - he keeps making excuses to come to the house for the kids - just pops up during the day - wanting to take them to dinner and stuff- I have told him multiple times to plan ahead. He texted yesterday and was the nicest he has EVER been - just saying things like - I don't mean to bother you - sorry for the confusion - and at one time he wrote - I can't remember much (talking about taking the girls out knowing they had other plans). I didn't respond to that comment - just kept it very objective. Detaching is so much easier without him in the house. I think he still feels like he can come and go but I have met him outside when exchanging the kids without asking him in. It just doesn't feel right. I know my feelings fluctuate too but it's just not his home anymore to me. There is a degree of freedom without him there. Our finances are getting split as I have my own account and credit card now. I rely heavily on my family and friends but I do sometimes fear i tell them too much. The other night he texted me and told me to drive his truck to work so he could take my car and have tires put on - i said no thanks - i can take care of that. I mean what is that line of thinking??? I have read all the links above - bought the DB book, Jim Conway book and everything else i can lay my hands on. He is visibly depressed but I know I am still in early replay given the time frame of the BD and i am already exhausted. He did start keeping a journal before he left and i took that as a good sign that perhaps he started some introspection but who really knows. I just don't know how to respond when he wants to still do things around the house - part of me thinks I should let him to keep coming around but I don't want to feel like a doormat and the other part wants him to feel the result of his leaving.
Thank you for your support - I never dreamed I would ever be in thsi situation as none of us do. I have started really focusing on me and that is hard and a long process but I know everything happens for a reason and I have a strong faith in God to get me through this according to his will. I am just walking my own path for now.