nit, you do a lot of mindreading and that drives your reactions.

"I remained calm but probably should have walked away."
Yes, about 15 minutes earlier.

You may never know hat she's so angry and I don't see why it matters at this point. Do you?

Her anger is hers to deal with.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss