My D17 is developmentally disabled and is absolutely blessed with an inability to hold grudges and hurt. She loves unconditionally and continues to be a role model for my family. Every day is groundhog day with her.
My D20 now hardly remembers life where we all lived together. She's well adjusted and I haven't hesitated to put her into IC when I felt she needed to process. (You can't do that with a 20 year old LOL. I just guide her to make good decisions for herself now.) She admits that she would have preferred us to remain a family under one roof. But she doesn't hesitate to let everyone know that she has been blessed to have the situation that worked for her. After our first disastrous year of separation--where we took turns on holidays with the kids, who were 9 and 6 then--we all decided it svcked and committed to sharing holidays to include both of us. It's been modified some years (when I take the girls to my parents in VA or he takes them to his dad's in MT), but for the most part, we spend holidays together as a family. ... No plans here. My D20 works at Maggiano's and is probably going to have to work. My D17 and I will figure something out by then. We always do. grin
Take care and be nice to yourself this long weekend!
You are really blessed to have them. Very inspiring to see how you and XH took their needs into consideration. Enjoy the long weekend with them.
She's well adjusted and I haven't hesitated to put her into IC when I felt she needed to process. (You can't do that with a 20 year old LOL. I just guide her to make good decisions for herself now.) She admits that she would have preferred us to remain a family under one roof. But she doesn't hesitate to let everyone know that she has been blessed to have the situation that worked for her. After our first disastrous year of separation--where we took turns on holidays with the kids, who were 9 and 6 then--we all decided it svcked and committed to sharing holidays to include both of us. It's been modified some years (when I take the girls to my parents in VA or he takes them to his dad's in MT), but for the most part, we spend holidays together as a family. 
