Thank you UR... And yes, been cycling through emotions.. And I actually AM being gentle with myself.
Cat04, I have been thinking a lot about what I want in an R for quite a while. Here are some things I've come up with, just added them to a list as I thought of them, not all are required, naturally, just things I'm looking for...
-someone who will try to keep the relationship safe: not cheat, not be looking around the next corner for something better, in real life, online, etc.
-someone who will forgive and accept my mistakes and flaws, cherish my strengths and talents, and not resent either of them.
-someone who will be able to disagree, stand up, speak their mind, yet compromise, or agree to disagree without thinking the relationship is over, not worth keeping, not meant to be, end of the world, etc.
-someone who believes that most things can be worked out if both parties open their mind, and put effort and dedication into finding a solution agreeable to both parties.
-someone who can forgive and let go of the past and move forward, together.
-someone who has their own activities, friends and interests, allows me mine, and we share some common activities, friends and interests.
-someone who will tell the truth, even if it is uncomfortable or may hurt. No lies or lies of omission.
-someone who can and will communicate their wants and needs respectfully and long before it is a huge issue.
-someone who knows reality exists and must be dealt with, while still striving towards ideals, goals and spirituality.
-someone who tries to be better than they were the day before.
-someone who wants and gives intimacy, holding hands, hugs, reading books together, napping together, sharing their inner selves, bedroom activities, risks being vulnerable.
-someone who is happy to see and be with me, and I with them, making sure to make the relationship a priority in the midst of many priorities.
-someone who is grateful for what they have, doesn't envy others, while still trying to make life better.
-someone who accepts that they will grow old, yet live and be young in heart and mind.
-someone who uses both their heart and their head.
-someone who can find laughter, joy, even in tough times, but especially good or neutral times.
-someone who likes home cooked food, likes to cook, likes that I cook, likes to grow home grown food, emphesizes natural health.
-someone who likes and wants to be in the outdoors, in nature.
-someone who values and engages in health and fitness.
-someone who has intellectual and spiritual curiosity, likes to read many genres.
-someone who has creative skills they engage in, doesn't matter what it is.
-someone who will share there knowledge and skills with me, and let me share mine.
-someone who leads where they are stronger, and lets me lead where I am stronger, without jealousy or resentment.
-someone who can be silly and not care what others think.
-someone who can be, and also wants, and allows me to be, a help-mate.
-someone who sees a relationship, and a family, as a team endeavor.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
