Cadet - I told him to stop the relationship. Surprise! He didn't. He just stopped telling me about it because it made me so unhappy. Then I would ask or suspect and ask...and...well, we all know how this goes. It goes poorly.)
I'm not sure how to disconnect from the relationship if I'm not acknowledging the affair.
Thoughts?
You had a boundary of no relationship with OW and you, but he figured out a way to break the boundary and what was your response? Not verbally but with your actions?
You can still only CONTROL one part of this - YOU.
Are you worried he will leave you if you confront him?
