Wife officially walked away just over a month ago

[BigMac]

Yes, the last conference we were both at was 2 days after she said she wanted to separate. I asked her to give me space, and not attend the same parties, but she threw a fit and I backed off.

People ended up overserving me booze to console me, and I ended up acting like an ass.

Yes, we are both in Tech. I am a pretty big name in this space, and thinking about getting up on stage to appear more desirable. (plus, I love being on stage).

You are right, in a Rom Com this would be where we sweep each other off our feet. In the reality we live in, at best this is more contact where we have a chance to work on light connect talk. I am worried that the OM will be there (he was at the last conference too). I am going to have to do alot of working out and mediating to make sure I am centered on this one.

Also, she is in Austin now renting a room, I have the house that we rented in the Bay Area. We haven't been in much contact, but originally i was going to rent a room in Austin to find a good neighborhood, and then rent a house out there, and we can share access to the kids.

Now, I am thinking about just keeping my main place in the bay area, and just renting a single room in Austin, and just split my time. This puts the kids full time with her (I have been watching them as a single dad since January of this year), with the exception of the last 4 weeks where they have been at the grandparents and I've visited them every 10 days or so. (I had to take time for me to heal)

I am thinking about picking them up for the next two weeks and having them at the house, though I am a bit apprehensive about my mother in law being a pain. I guess I need to man up and stop being so insecure.