I've thanked a bunch of people, many separate times, including in individual posts.
You asked why I'm in therapy; I'm in therapy because I like it, frankly. It was great for me after med school, then I moved out of state. I doubt I'll ever stop therapy---it's a fantastic tool. I've said it before and I'll say it again, not everybody needs therapy, but every one of us can benefit from it.
I don't mean to make it sound like I don't care about you or anyone else just because I don't ask a lot of questions. But this is my first experience with forums. I think the most frustrating part is I'm not coming across right and the format isn't exactly the most effective way of communicating, let alone giving life-changing advice.
But to say I don't value the positives is inaccurate. It's grossly inaccurate, actually. I'm not offended, I just really don't think this forum (or any forum, for that matter, albeit I'm inexperienced) is effective. For one, it's broken up; you can't read everything about the situation even in one thread. Second, people forget things, or maybe don't read them, maybe misinterpret them outright, or maybe I don't write them accurately enough. Still, me forgetting the positives in reality seems to be less accurate than others forgetting the positives I've written about, particularly therapy and changes as a direct result of talking with my wife.
I'll say it again---------I appreciate your help. I sincerely do. But no matter how good I do, nobody here will ever really know. I don't see a lot of success stories, and yet I feel like I'm having more success than most, and I'm grateful I found these books and some advice and therapy relatively quickly.
For what it's worth, I can't imagine what I would have been like since finding this forum if I hadn't found it. Hearing much worse stories DOES help put things into perspective (even if it doesn't completely eliminate my own problems immediately), and venting here is a good outlet----just TALKING about it is theraputic. I wish it had more to do with people directly trained by Michele and her research, but I learned the hard way.
