Sex was great, then we married part 3

[GoatGal]

Grey,

It's funny that you didn't pick up on it, but in one of my last posts to you, there was an empathy test.

How do you think you did?

I know you don't know me, but we have been writing back and forth for weeks now.
Not a peep from you about how tough things are for me, it's just right back to you. I almost feel like you didn't read it because it wasn't about YOU.

And, off the top of my head, I can't recall you ever thanking anyone here for offering their time to help you.
The responses from you have pretty much been that we don't know what we're talking about it, while you justify why you have the right to see the situation the way you do and choose to feel so hurt by it.
It is extremely ego-centric.

The fact is, your situation is a relatively mild one in the big picture and there are so many positives, yet you don't see them or don't value them.

There is definitely a disconnect here.

As some vets have said, the way you come across here is indicative of your style of communication off this forum.


So probably you communicate in much the same way with your wife.

It's not a style that's going to do you a lot of good long term.

Just food for thought. No need to defend yourself. It is what it is.

Did you ever say why you've been in therapy? What are the issues that led you there? Just curious.

--GG

PS: What you focus on INCREASES, what you ignore, DIMINISHES.