Well, it has only been 2 months since BD. I am in no way even close to "dividing up" my house or life in any agreement. I will file when my heart and my head are in the same place. I don't recommend making huge life altering decisions based on emotional gut reactions. This is in my power, and I can not control what he does.

He thinks we can do a "cheap easy" divorcee (disillusion of assets.)
He of course, thinks I deserve no alimony, nor property settlement. (He thinks I should just leave "everything". HUGE house and barn, loaded with items, and I'm moving to a 2 bedroom flat?? He has always been a hoarder, he keeps everything - it is going to be his panic to see "his stuff" go for sale or auction.
In this respect, I'm better off, because I believe things are just things....

He also claims the house is a "wash", and I should just sign it over to him (for MY benefit.)
Of course, my lawyer thinks this is a load of crap, and I should never agree to nor sign anything re: property settlement, house settlement or alimony (maintenance). Apparently, this WS line of thought is as common as rain. I do not want to be the one to break it to him (about the alimony - or property settlement -- or audit.)
that is what lawyers are for.
When he realizes that his little fantasy of a "cheap, quick, easy" divorce is NOT going to happen, I don't want him to direct that frustration at me. I hope the OW gets a sniff.

He is really cheesed off that he is "paying the bills" and not living here. If we file for a divorce, he is going to have to continue "the norm" anyway- until the divorce is finalized.

He thinks we are going to sit down, write up an agreement, and go file ourselves $290 in my state - and whada boom, whada bing! 90 day divorce. Happy WS, happy OW -

Pack your bags, BS..

Last edited by bugsby; 07/03/14 02:06 PM.
Me: 48
H: 48
Married 26 , together 30
D1: 21
D2: 18
"Happily Married" until BD
4 weeks later: "Im talking to someone"
No papers filed.
Attempting 180, finding it difficult.