I've been reading along and I guess my question is...
Is he genuinely WILLING to work on the problem, whatever it is? Does he consider himself 50% of the problem? If so, does he seem able and willing to honestly look at himself?
When I imagine myself in another relationship and I think about what are dealbreakers for me...being broken in certain ways isn't a dealbreaker.
I'm not naive enough to imagine I will EVER be attracted to someone without issues. But, the thing that was missing for Smokey and I was his ability to hold himself accountable for any problems. He simply couldn't wrap his head around his being the source of relationship problems and when he did... it was all or nothing. He was a piece of shid who had his tail between his legs.
I guess what I'm saying, not very well, is that I hope to find someone who is capable of seeing his own broken parts and is willing to work on them together.
I imagine I will be working on the same issues until I'm in the grave, but I'm looking for someone who is willing to face these issues honestly without avoidance, arrogance and a good measure of humility.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
