Igit, you don't pursue, you preach.

I get it, you're angry at your W's actions.

But the only person you can change is you. So what are you doing in that direction? What is your part in the breakup of your marriage?

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The comments about making decisions I should have kept to self

Good insight, if a little late. You're hurting and you want to hurt her. That will get you more of what you already have.

Why do you want to stay married to your W?

What are three things you can change about you, that you know you need to change?

What's your plan for making those changes?

This DB is not about you getting your W to see the error of her ways (that's controlling and fixing).

It's about you making changes, real changes so she might make different choices and want to be in a marriage with you.






Last edited by labug; 07/03/14 01:37 PM.
Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss