I have to agree with Nopkins: not all men are the same. Not all men need to be desired and admired by their wives to feel confident. I know of too many cases to the contrary.
CeMar, I think that if you saw a little improvement in your situation (rather than a complete fulfillment of your list of requirements: sex 3 times per week, etc) you might find your confidence and happiness increasing incrementally. IOW, you might find that it is possible to compromise with your wife.
If she feels that it is an all-or-nothing proposition, she might feel like it is an impossible goal. That's where the negotiation and compromise comes in.
But I agree that there seems to have been no compromise so far -- your wife is setting the entire agenda.
