The well trodden path

[chip247]

Hello ladies & gents I can see that here in the Uk we are not unique in walking this path.
Just some background my wife & I are both mid forties & we have two children living at home, daughter 22 & son 14. Although me & the wife have been together 23 years we only married 18 months ago!
About 3 months ago I was given the I love you but bomb shell, having been together for 23 years you can imagine I was knocked on my butt by this news & I readily admit my initial reactions probably made the whole situation a great deal worse, quickly turning from I love you but to she's gotta get out of our relationship. I did all the wrong things crying, pleading, guilt etc etc. before I got to the point that I think I was just about to have a meltdown... So I got myself an appointment with a therapist & started reading anything relevant I could find on the subject of marriage problems. The therapist has helped me find calm & I have ceased all the crazy stuff I was doing that was pushing my wife further away, I've given her space & i haven't spoken about us so often & I have just tried to be the best father & husband I can be.
If I'm honest I know I have my faults the main one being how I spoke to my wife & kids occasionally but I have never been aggressive or violent. I think the recent recession took its toll on us with money troubles adding to an already difficult situation with my wife who doesn't do conflict due to physical abuse from her father as a child just bottling up her emotions, so any issues in our relationship just get brushed under the carpet which clearly has led to a great deal of resentment.
My close friends & family have really rallied around me & given me the strength to keep fighting but I fear for my wife because she doesn't have that kind of network, her mother in spite of my trying to get her help has not really got involved & my wife doesn't have any close friends because she always keeps people at arms length, (yes she clearly has trust issues).
So as things stand today I have ordered the DR & await delivery but as well as seeking a bit of support here I have continued my therapy sessions, I guess I want to ask what else should I do? my wife's recent attitude has softened from I want to be on my own to I don't know what I want! so I'm taking that as a positive, we go on a family vacation in a few weeks which could be a big relief or a complete disaster.
But other than keep working on myself, (I have taken a few what I think you guys describe as 180's) & visiting my therapist are there any other strategies that may help to win back my wife?

thanks for being there.