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Well we went to the appointment today with our old MC and I don't know if it made a difference. My STBXH said things for him are black and white. Like he wants to be with me but can't deal with my sisters and my kids so therefore he can't be with me. Our MC asked if any gray could be possible for him and my STBXH said he didn't see that as he has felt happier, less stressed and relaxed since we separated and now getting divorced. I was honest and said that I had hoped for a future for us but I don't see it as my STBXH deals only in absolutes. My MC asked what it would look like if I could have my STBXH and everything else ideally and I couldn't picture it at all. My STBXH told me that he is trying to get to the gray area so to speak where there is more possibilities as to how we could be together. My STBXH also is very hurt and upset that I didn't make more of an effort with his kids and angry that I tried more after he dropped the BD. My STBXH also is upset that I gave in to my kids and didn't support him in how to raise them and be more strict. I know that I can't change his mind or feelings. He also mentioned feeling pressured when I ask for reassurance from him and for the future which I have done and shouldn't. He asks me to be open about my feelings but when I do too much he feels pressured and scared. My daughter is also leaving tomorrow for Japan and I am being called by my extended family that I am doing the wrong thing. My life is in shambles