I wanted to let you know that my XH wanted to stay friends and pursued friendship with me even though I told him I didn't want to be friends.
That's really not fair to you if your doing all the emotional work, is it? That was a problem within my marriage. I did all the emotional work.
I understand your values as well. I didn't think "friends" was an appropriate thing to be based on how the relationship ended, and how still to this day all the lies are trickling out of his closet. I can see that in a healthy "break up" being friends is possible.
Detatchment is good. That just comes with time and space. Define your boundaries and stick to them. To be truthful, it wasn't until my XH lost his cell phone service for a year and then moved out of town that I finally felt free and divorced!
