My wife is VERY sure of herself and can talk circles around me. She intimidates a lot of people, myself included. However, I have made it a resolution this year to speak my mind with her at all times, even if it causes my divorce! I have a lot of work to get up to speed on this.
Now about the negotiate part. I see this a lot. How do you negotiate DESIRE? My wife has NO desire. We have sex maybe once a month, and she does not give ANY affection. So how do I get the following conditions met:
I want sex 3 times a week. I want her to initiate sex at least once a week. I want her to flirt every day. I want her to perform oral sex at least twice a month and like it. I want her to kiss and hug me MANY times a day. I want her to cuddle in and out of bed.
What I have listed above is not some utltimate goal, this is what I consider the MINIMUM to save my marriage, I would actually want even MORE then this. But to achieve this, really would be much easier if she had desire. In fact without desire, I can not imagine how she can ever come close to meeting my needs. So How Do You Negotiate DESIRE? How Can we restore Desire?
