"Speak Softly and Carry a Big Stick"

[GoatGal]

OK. H is DEFINITELY trying to bait me! I don't really understand, this is something new.

He just sent a borderline nasty text, clearly trying to "tell" me that because I wasn't doing what he wanted that he was going to "punish" me by going to a Fourth of July party instead of--what?
Working around here and ignoring me? Hey--it's just another Friday to me.
I couldn't care less. But pretty funny that he's trying to get a rise out of me with his "social life."

He said how I was "so upset about the scheduling last week"
(not at all, just he was being weird) and that he has a right to be upset that I didn't give him the answers he wanted about when I'd be out late so he could be here ALONE....

(This is very much how he acted when he was involved with OW. He just picked fights all the time. Yet I'm pretty sure there is NOTHING going on now. So what's up?)

Then some nonsense about me "being unconcerned about your commitment to tomorrow night's schedule..." Which really upset him for some reason--because he really wanted to be here? I have no idea.

Anyhow I'd said I "might" have something to do, but wasn't sure because I've been sort of tired with the dogs, but maybe if I got some rest I'd go. Definitely not jerking him around or anything...AT ALL.

(And of course he KNOWS all he has to do is ask to stay. But I'm not going to force myself to stay out late just so he can be here alone.)

Then he says "Well, I have been INFORMED that I have an early gathering here, but I will be up to cover for you.. (to go to my 4th party)... BUT I have a RIGHT to make PLANS TOO!." (Guess he's being kidnapped against his will.)

Nyaah-Nyaah-Nyaah-Nyaah -Nyaah!! Thumbing his nose at me. As if I care!

This sounds so much like a 12 year old girl. It's not coming across here but his texts were VERY SNIPPY. This started on Sat, after he was here Friday night.

After he heard my midnight phone call? Hmmmmm.... now that I think about it. I wonder....

This is a man who doesn't write more than three words at a time, this is the longest text he's sent in months!

Usually he only does that when he's spewing.


I responded: "Not upset about the schedule, just wasn't communicated clearly. And I'd like to be asked, just out of courtesy. But yeah---if you have something to do on Friday, that's great! It's the 4th of July--go have fun!! Don't worry about it, it's not a problem."

"PS: Ambrose Dog is OK. Have a great night :)"


I didn't BITE.


He texts back immediately: "Sure".

I know Wonka touched on this but I'm having trouble grasping why he is suddenly being so nasty and clearly trying to bait me, get me angry, provoke me, or just exert some control over me.

Clearly he's angry, clearly he's trying to get some kind of reaction from me...
All that's changed that I'm aware of is that I just dropped the rope as much as possible. And not just "pretending", but really feeling that way.

Sure, he pisses me off, but I'm still pretty detached overall. That's a good thing.

I'll sleep on it.
Meanwhile, I am being nice as pie.


----GG