Ha! Bugsby , I've spent the last several years thinking I had to be * superwoman* and do it all. Post BD, I've learned to relax and go back to more of who I used to be. It has been good for me and my kids !
I have 3 kids and h is " in love" with OW and has no idea I know she exists. My kids are younger than yours and are very perceptive and observant. My older 2 are in therapy and have caught him in lies and told me and their therapist. They don't say anything to their Dad though. It can be difficult. They are watching me- particularly my daughter. It's a challenge, however you can acknowledge that cheating is not appropriate while acknowledging that people make mistakes. And I always tell my kids, every decision has consequences-some good and some bad.
Is your h super involved with your Ds? Has he become more distant with them? I'm curious as to what he wants to tell them about his A. Is he looking for their understanding and acceptance as to why he cheated?
It gets better:-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
