I have tried explaining things to the wife, and admittedly, not very well to her, and she also throws up the defensive walls once anything starts getting related to sex. I still have more rocks to turn over in my quest for a solution, so I have not completely given up.
And yes, Carlotta, I think of divorce more and more. If it were just me and the wife, I would have no problem leaving her. I can not love a person in the long run if the do not DESIRE me like I DESIRE them. Without DESIRE, why be married? But then I come back to reality that I have 3 boys from 14 down to 8. They are completely innocent in this situation, would it be fair to them for MOM and DAD to split. We do not have an unhappy home, just an unhappy marriage. If I were to leave, it definitely would make things hard on them. Do I have the right to do that to my children? If divorce were to happen, I want the blame to be were it belongs, on MOM. So I go back and forth a lot on this, and I decide that my own happiness is not as important as the happiness of my children, I am still willing to give up my life for them. I am not alone in this, I know couples that already know that their marriages are over and they are just staying around until the children move out (they openly admit to this). I just keep telling myself to stay until the youngest is old enough that the impact won't be so bad. Sad thing is that I am checking out all the women I meet, especially at the rec center I go to. And among the 35+ woman, the selection of single woman is VERY BAD. What are the chances of meeting a middle age woman that is in good shape, is cute, and LOVES sex. Yea, these woman grow on trees! Let's face it, most women that are divorced at this age are very likely LD, since most marriages with problems have at least one spouse with very LD.
But hey, if I meet a cute 35+ woman in good shape that loves a good roll in the hay, I'm OUTA HERE!
