Sorry you're here. It's a heck of a roller coaster, that's for sure. Right now if you can't keep it together (impossible!) having some space might be a good idea. It's really hard to listen and validate when they're talking crazy.
"Where they land, they land."? Wow. That must have been tough to hear.
Listen to NOTHING HE SAYS. He's going to say even more crazy talk before this is all over.
Do Cadet's homework, find a way to take care of yourself and your children. Detaching is really hard at first, and is still hard later on. Right now distraction is your friend, as well as the folks on this board.
If you need to vent, do it here, not in front of your husband, or to him, either in text/phone/email/in person.
Try and keep your cool, do what you can to rest, eat, and feel centered as much as you can. Lean on friends and family (without disclosing too much) if you can. Now's the time to treat yourself and your kids---go out for ice cream, eat pizza at midnight--stay up late. Whatever will help you feel connected to them and less out of control
Find things you enjoy doing and do them.
Again, I'm so sorry for your troubles. It's such a hard thing to deal with.
How are the kids taking it so far?
Hang in there,
---GG
PS: Your name is aptly chosen!
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
