I am new here and I don't know where to begin. A little over two years ago i discovered my wife was having an affair with one of the military officers at her work. She gave me the standard ILYBINILWY. Needless to say this broke my heart. I was deeply involved with our daughter at that time who was having major life problems and I was doing everything I could do to help her. Due to my wife's age and other factors I believe she was and still is in a midlife crisis. I am trying my best to hold our family together but my wife's affair went from an EA to PA and because the officer had to move back to the US it is again an EA. On several occasions I have discovered emails without really looking to see them because they basically disgust me. The last one was today. My wife tells me to leave it alone that it is going away. Well that is very easy for her to say but very hard for me to make a 180 and ignore. There is a lot more to this problem but I do not want to get too long winded. I have read the first chapter and completed other readings as suggested. Because of personal money matters I have not been able to order the book and the way things are I cannot afford the professional counseling available here. Help. I have done the wrong things for the past two years and I need advice.
Me:64, W:51 S:22,D:18,D:17 Married:23 DA 1/2012 ILMWF
