Your marriage is not crumbling. You are not in a SSM--yet---and you may never be!
Yes, my marriage is in danger. Absolutely. Every marriage is, it sounds like, at one point or another.
And I am in a SSM by definition, which you can read here for free.
I couldn't do what you're doing. Life is to short to stay unhappy for so many years simply because someone married someone else. Sometimes divorce actually is better. I'm not the one to tell you that, but I wouldn't do what you're doing, it sounds too damaging for too long in your life, and with no real solution in sight. I understand you're getting stronger, but maybe you'd be even moreso after divorce? Nobody should be trapped by anyone for so long.
