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[Train]

My post was *supposed* to be about far more than your H planning activities, though, I admit, I'm hung up on that a little ... because it seems that would be the easiest and quickest way for you to learn how to give up just a little control and let your H lead his wife and family from time to time.

The post was intended to challenge you to think outside the box ... to consider that maybe you don't know your H - or all the answers - like you think you do.

My point also wasn't just about letting your H "drive" your planned outings/activities. That would way oversimplify the message. It's about you backing off a little, letting go of all the control and letting him drive *something*, ANYTHING in your marriage.

I'd continue to challenge you to think even beyond your anger. Recall some times you got angry with your H. Why did you get angry in the first place? What caused it? There had to be an event that sparked the anger. Now, what caused that *event*? Does that make sense?

I'm not at all rejecting what your H is saying to you as the (one) reason he was unhappy. But I still think there's more. I think y'all are scratching the surface, which is maybe all that CAN be done at this stage.

But YOU have the ability to challenge your own thinking and to think outside the box. I may only be one person, but I think your M depends on it. And I agree with Bond that your reaction to my post just shows there's still "more of the same" going on in you. Again, we see - in how you react/respond to different things - what your H must also see. Make sense?