Hey Dev, a little bird suggested I swing by. Sorry I was late to the party, however, I don't see a thing I would have said differently from Wonka's guidance.
Your WAW's letter was really sad. Almost sounded like a farewell letter from her. Had a lot of troubling points, especially about her babies. Whatever happens in the future, I hope you won t blame yourself b/c I think the seeds to those issues were already planted before you M her, and just grew over time. I feel so sorry for your kids, and hope this doesn't cause phychological problems for them. I'm glad they have you to stabilize their lives.
I believe the reason your W is so ticked is b/c she feels as if she is the one getting the boot, after reading your email. Your directness hit her where it hurt, especially the "friendship" issue. I think she was counting on having you as her BFF. I am glad you didn't sugar coat your reasons for the decision. She is angry right now, but later she will hit another level of depression......I think......when she realizes she really has lost you in every way, not just as a H.
And, IDK, it could even push her to test you out to see if you really stick by it. And each time as you draw her attention back to the third party.....she will try to make you out to be the jerk.
I admire your strength and courage! Continue marching forward.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
