I agree with much of what you say. But when I read the MLC board, I would guess that at least % of the sa called MLC where the men leave their wives are all about a SSM. see these women refer to the OW as slut, whore, bimbo, or some other sexual connotation. Then you will see the wife talk about how the hubby left for sex, and that there is more to marriage then sex. There are so many SEXUAL reasons being refered to in these so called MLC stories. It just seems so obvvious that these men left for sex, their sexual needs were not being met at home. This is a SSM to me. The problem I see for these ladies is that they see it as a MLC, so therefore the HUBBY is mostly or entirely to blame, while if you see it as a SSM, then BOTH in the relationship are to blame. But I dared to suggest that their was a sex problem and all hell breaks loose. Heck, even my OWN wife trys to brush off my problems as MLC, when it is 100% a SSM. My trying to bring back sex to my marriage is interpreted by her as TRYING to relive my youth. See, she honestly believes that since her libido left her, that it is normal to lose interest as people get older. IT DOES NOT HAPPEN TO HD GUYS! I have been patiently waiting for my wifes sex drive to COME BACK, mine NEVER LEFT ME, and very likely never will. To me, a MLC is when one spouse acts STRANGELY and Irresponsibly, not when they want to be lovers!
