"If anger was the biggest issue your H had with you, shouldn't that be your priority?"

That's exactly the point. Anger is the biggest issue and is my #1 priority, not getting H to plan activities.

Mistakes are a normal part of trying to change behavior. H can chose to stay and give me a chance...or not. For the moment it seems he is choosing to continue to stay. Nothing more I can do but keep trying and when I get off course, apologize and get back on track ASAP; getting back on track is success.

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14