I think the trickiest part for me is people telling me to get a life.
I have a life.
Then books or people say do nice things, randomly.
I already do that. Maybe if I wasn't already doing what it sounds like so many don't it would help, but then again maybe she wouldn't love me like she does if I didn't do those things, either.
The problem isn't simply "I'm not having any sex," but dealing with it. I hurt. I DO feel alone. THAT IS NORMAL----understand that part first before giving advice or judging my situation.
The solution I hear the most is "get a life." Do things, hobbies, whatever it is just to try to forget. I can't forget, though. I had a life. I HAVE a life. So that doesn't help me. It makes me feel more helpless----ignore my wife more to do more of my hobbies and be social with more people without her?
My problem is patience. I hurt. I hurt badly. Understand that first before saying "stop thinking, start exercising."
