Matt165 I live in NY so it's a no-fault state. He has not yet started proceedings, I just recieved a letter that they'd like to do this "ammicably" and so my lawyer should contact his. I have not yet been served. Because I know this is an important decision I have one more consult scheduled for July 8th before I decide who to go with. I'm trying to hire someone I am comfortable with, who will do things at my pace and comfort level and not their own. I just can't stand that I'm being rushed into this... that it's being shoved down my throat.
You're right, all he wants to do is run. I wish he would just move out and go be "happy". It would make things so much easier for me and the kids. It would be hard on them initially but at this point lets just rip off the bandaid and be done with it. I don't know why he's prolonging the inevitable. You are pursuing the divorce yet you are still sitting around as if all is the same. Get out and move on with your fantasy life. Move in with OW into the neighborhood you've mentioned before you want to live in and go enjoy. Let her take care of you.
Just like your W my H is also in an extreme hurry to get the D overwith. Unlike your W I dont know that his pace will slow down. After all, he has to "wipe the slate clean and start from scratch", he has to start his life all over again. You know, he'll just push a button and me and the kids will just disappear.
Me: 35, H: 36, M: 6, S: 1, D: 3, BD: 4/21/14 H still living at home
