Georgiabelle, when I tell you he went from the care of his mother to my care that's exactly how it went. He does not know how to do a single thing for himself. He has never gone grocery shopping, maybe dropped off dry cleaning 3 times in his life, never took the kids to the dr., never took care of anythign on his own. Up until now I've been doing his laundry because I do everyone's laundry so I didn't want to be petty or nasty and pick his things out when throwing in a load. I think it's time to start doing that. I have to stop being so nice and start being firm. Start setting up boundaries. The funny part is if you met me generally I am definitely no pushover. I am assertive and a take charge type of person. I just have felt bad for him the past 2 months. He has done such a 180 and I see that he's crumbling. So my nurturing instincts go full blown. I have to stop doing that. I have to stop being a doormat.
Me: 35, H: 36, M: 6, S: 1, D: 3, BD: 4/21/14 H still living at home
