Okay so night before last, the W texts can I say something, I said of course. So she tells me her female cousin tells her she needs to see other people, so she can compare what we had, and maybe figure out what she is missing if anything. The W says that she doesn't have a lot to compare too, and she is not for sure what to do!! I tell her that's fine, but if she wants that then I want a divorce, I said that from beginning of separation, any dating or feelings for someone else and we end it, so the kids don't get the wrong idea!! She said she understands and that she will keeping on it!!! Don't know what she meant by that, I didn't ask.
Of course the last thing I want is divorce, but part of my makeup is old school and I can't stand by while she dates others. To me if married and even separated, you are still married in the eyes of god, and I'm not super religious, but I still have my core beliefs. What do you think? Was it wrong to say this on my part? I know that was not keeping the path lit back home, but if I go against something I believe in, wouldn't that harm our R even further? Any thoughts appreciated.
