He is trying to build a case against you for his actions and unhappiness. He needs to feel justified for his choices cause the repercussions of his choices are making him feel like garbage. He doesn' t understand why is affair is not acceptable.. it would be if you were a bad wife all along ?? He would have proof of it if he could just find one outrageous thing about you.. He is angrier and angrier because there is nothing to find.. He is still the a**hole who destroyed the family... My XH is still looking for faults in me.. After a while, I was responding with an " I just don' t care anymore " tone of voice and would reply: " Go ahead, make me pay ". or " Add it in your book, not list, BOOK of what is wrong with me, if it makes you feel better. Cause no-one else sees me this way.. only you."
Months later, he would cry to me saying he doesn' t hate me.. He didn' t wish hurt on anyone.
