It is very hard.. no matter which road we choose.. I know not everyone put on my road are out to hurt me. Not even XH. He did hurt me but it wasn' t about me. that took a longgggg time to grasp. that is when forgiveness comes in play. His mess is HIS, not mine. I should not be the one to pay for what others have done to him. And I will not make someone else pay for what others did to me. We all have our work cut out. The difference beetwin LBS and MLCer is the reality of things. We are not out to live a fairytale and destroy anyone who gets in the way. We are better then that. We know that is not the way to go. So as AJ said, I think we all have the right tool to be successful in an other relationship when WE FEEL the time is right for us to enter it..
