Hi Tears, You actually responded well to his 'confession". He saw that you were ready to just let him go and it scared him. There are many times that I wish I had just done the same with my W on B-day. The bank account thing is normal and I had to go through that one while my W was still living at home. Just like your H, it took OP (in my case her father) to push her to do that. Be careful Tears. He has much work to do before he can just re-enter your and your D's lives fully. He is still bouncing all over the place from "all his fault" to "I was perfect". I would try and find a better MC, one that is pro-marriage as he has issues that need work (the drinking is a big one!).
I have a feeling he is still baking and you may be in for some bumpy times. I hope he is really ready to come home but you need to set clear boundaries and I would be careful about ML as he has been with another woman. You may want to ask him to get tested for STD's and if you may want to if he was with her while you were still together.
Hang in there Tears. Be strong and be ready for him to act out some more.
