What did you do for Valentine's Day?

[Scott1701]

I'll hop in with a report. Which I think is step forward. Morning on VD was spent getting kiddo to Urgent Care and pharamcy for RX, he had a ear infection which woke him up at 2:40 am. Dropped kiddo off at his friends house for afternoon and joined spouse at a neighborhood art show we were both participating in. She had drawings and I had B&W photos. We both sold a peice, so that was cool. She had also done a lot of the work to set this up. After the art show we packed up and headed home. We had had tentative plans for just to go out and not join the other artists. However since not leaving too early and deciding to change our initial restaurant choice we ended up at a nice family owned pasta place, as the big chains were having 1-2 hour waits. We headed home after a nice dinner and she was tired, so I was a little miffed.

However on Sunday we had a meeting of our "Encountering Couples", which is a once a month meeting with other couples who have gone through a Marriage Encounter weekend (we did ours last October). The topic was sex! One of the other couples gave the presentation and afterwards each couple writes answers to the questions that given in a notebook and then after a time we exchange notebooks and read each others answers. We both had noted that we are frustrated about our communications about sex. She said we should bring the notebooks to our next marriage counselling session, which I agreed with. There was no magic solution found at that point. In the discussion afterword, many of the couples mentioned that sex was a tough point between them and we were all amazed at why this was still an issue among the couple, several of which have been married more than a decade. On the drive home, she mentioned that this won't be easy to solve.

The good note was that after I had gotten the kiddo to bed and had joined her in ours, we talked about nothing for a bit and after she had turned out her light and rolled my direction, I thought she was sleepy again and started to read, she said she wasn't that tired to which I promptly got rid of the book and jamma bottoms and we had a very nice time.

So while there was not an earth shattering revelation, I think we may find a way to communicate over this.

Our next marriage counselling session is next Monday, so I'll see what happens then.