Just catching up on your thread. While, it may be beneficial for you to hear what your h was getting from OW (and I'm guessing some of it was excitement, new, no history, etcetera), I'm not sure what your daughters will benefit from this exercise. I realize they are older, and quite frankly, nothing your h says to your Ds about having the affair is going to sound positive or how much he loves them. As a matter of fact, just thinking about this convo creeps me out a bit. However, you can't control what he says and others may chime in with different views on him sharing this info.
I understand that you don't want your Ds to think cheating is *good* or *mom deserved it.* However, showing them strength, living your life to the fullest and being pleasant to their Dad are actions that will speak volumes. This doesn't mean being a doormat or that you *condone* his behavior. It is what it is though. His relationship with the girls is for him to own. You can tell your daughters that M takes commitment and work. Your Ds will develop their own ideas and opinions and just make yourself available to chat with them if they want.
It gets easier. Hang in there!
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
