WAW separation begins

[rayzzz]

I say if you have a friendship that you can keep as a friendship, then no harm no foul. So what if it is with a member of the opposite sex. Set your own boundaries and stick with them. And be sure the other person knows your boundaries as well. You need friends.

Right, I guess I just have to make sure the boundary involves not hanging out with a female too much...that can be a danger zone for me and I am learning I just need me to be happy not anyone else even M right?

I am not sure I understand your C. He is telling you to keep fighting for your M but telling your W that it she should move on?

Yeah he's a best friend/mentor/who happens to be Family therapist. I do have another IC. I have decided that I am still pro M no matter what kind of help he is giving my WAW too. SUre he is trying to straddle the fence and means well, but my db goal is clear so i am gonna stop freaking

I would not read into the text from your W in any way. It has too many ambiguities to know for sure. So for that reason alone, I would just take it as a positive she contacted you and leave it at that.

Thanks pilot, I just needed to hear that. I'm thinking as well, its what was said to HER and not directly to me so I wont read into it and confuse myself.