What did y'all do for Valentine's Day. I hope that you got to do something romantic. Hubby and I went to a B&B about an hour away from our house. Had a romantic dinner, champagne, and a VERY romantic night in our room.
It was a great weekend and I'm actually really sad to be home.
Stayed in jammies and watched movies. The day really threw me as I knew that there were no prospects of anything happening and I was right. Son called and we had a nice chat. I could have gone to friends house and spendt the day there but would have felt like a third wheel so stayed home. H was upstatirs all day and I was downstairs. Yet another indication that the H wants nothing but a room mate relationship.
Quote: Stayed in jammies and watched movies. The day really threw me as I knew that there were no prospects of anything happening and I was right. Son called and we had a nice chat. I could have gone to friends house and spendt the day there but would have felt like a third wheel so stayed home. H was upstatirs all day and I was downstairs. Yet another indication that the H wants nothing but a room mate relationship.
Johanna
Sorry to hear about your crappy VD Johanna. Mine as indicated in my thread sucked as well. Wife talked silly about me giving her a VD card and a nail certificate. The kids at least appreciated their cards and cash. To answer the question what did I do.
I got foot to the crotch from the W. I'm still trying to figure out her reaction and attitude change in a few hours. Other than that, I met a friend at Cracker Barrel for a lonely hearts breakfast. Visited my folks. This will mark the first time in my life my mom didn't get me a VD card. So put that on top of the crap from my W that helped me to feel bad. Later in the afternoon, I took D to a VD lunch of sorts to my favorite lunch haunt. Later that night, I met the same friend from the morning and some of her friends for drinks. I was the only guy among 3 women. We were to go to the movies and then to one of the ladies house for more drinks and talk about how bad we hate VD. There's more to this but I don't want to jack someone else's thread.
You know, we tend to have pet names for our spouses, like Hon, Honey, Love, etc.. I wonder what my response would be if I started to refer to my spouse at all times as ROOMY? Afterall, our ND spouses are only ROOMATES, and that apparently is what they want, so why not call them what they actually are, ROOMIES! Why use all the mushy stuff, just spell it out the way they want, as cold, fridgid, ROOMIES!!!!
I doubt if they would even understand if we started calling them "Roomie" I swear that there is no brain function or much sign of life at all, other than taking up space in the house.
Pet name? Have not heard one in so long it's completely out of the vocabulary. Sounds like lots of us had a crappy weekend.
Blackie, at least you were able to share some time with the D and some gal pals. That was something.
for valentines day we (the two kiddos, h and I) woke up got dressed (or actually I woke up with dd and son and an hour or so later went back to bed and had h get up with them) we then all got dressed and headed off to get the kids haircuts...ended up having the whole family cut...then off to a couple of stores, h and I taking turns running in while the kids slept in the car. Then off to lunch/dinner at a resteraunt, then home to watch lion king 1 1/2 together. Put kiddos to bed and then I parked it on the couch. We were supposed to play darts or something but I went out the night before and was wiped so we chilled on the couch...h in his robe that I had sent to him from pajamagram.com...watched a couple of movies on cable and then well there was some interaction then off to bed.
all in all I think it was a pretty good day.
re names?
well h and I used to call eachother jerkus and occassionaly I call him farticus...but we really don't get into the mushy names however h does call me hon on occasion now...but I save sweetie & hunny for the kids...sometimes (especially when we've had a tif) I'll say sweetie and h will say what...we both get a laugh when I tell him I wasn't talking to him.
Well, this weekend both the H and I had to work, so Friday night we went to a movie and dinner. It was relaxing, and nice...
He'd had a really tough couple of days at work, and I knew that ValD was going to be a long one (closing at a big retail store that sold ValD stuff), so I woke up early Saturday and made pancakes and eggs and muffins. (I cook rarely - still learning how - and he really loves it when I do.)
I'd arranged earlier in the week for a sweet surprise to be delivered to him at work, and he called me when it got there, delighted but slightly embarassed because it had been mildly publicly delivered. :-D I'd been planning on making lasagna for dinner, but had forgotten to take the meat out, so I asked a friend who was looking for something to do that evening to help me with a recipe I knew she had and knew he'd love. We got the stuff, spent time talking, and she left so she would be able to get up for church the next day... I cooked - new stuff, but it turned out yummy for my first try! - and he got home about 1:30 that morning. He loved it. (-: We sat and talked a bit before we went to bed... he ran a hand down my side and said that he was really sorry he was as tired as he was. Which was really cool, because I wasn't expecting him to be even that willing, given the few days we'd been having schedule- and stress-wise. (And the tiredness was definitely real - both of us were about ready to pass out by then.)
Next day we got up and ran around to get to work. C'est la vi. (-:
Last year he went all-out to spoil me, cooking and cleaning and decorating the apartment for me. So it was fun to get to spoil him a bit. And while nothing physical happened, I really enjoyed it... and I have hopes for the next few days. (-:
I am turning in revolution
these are the scars that silence carved
on me
I'll hop in with a report. Which I think is step forward. Morning on VD was spent getting kiddo to Urgent Care and pharamcy for RX, he had a ear infection which woke him up at 2:40 am. Dropped kiddo off at his friends house for afternoon and joined spouse at a neighborhood art show we were both participating in. She had drawings and I had B&W photos. We both sold a peice, so that was cool. She had also done a lot of the work to set this up. After the art show we packed up and headed home. We had had tentative plans for just to go out and not join the other artists. However since not leaving too early and deciding to change our initial restaurant choice we ended up at a nice family owned pasta place, as the big chains were having 1-2 hour waits. We headed home after a nice dinner and she was tired, so I was a little miffed.
However on Sunday we had a meeting of our "Encountering Couples", which is a once a month meeting with other couples who have gone through a Marriage Encounter weekend (we did ours last October). The topic was sex! One of the other couples gave the presentation and afterwards each couple writes answers to the questions that given in a notebook and then after a time we exchange notebooks and read each others answers. We both had noted that we are frustrated about our communications about sex. She said we should bring the notebooks to our next marriage counselling session, which I agreed with. There was no magic solution found at that point. In the discussion afterword, many of the couples mentioned that sex was a tough point between them and we were all amazed at why this was still an issue among the couple, several of which have been married more than a decade. On the drive home, she mentioned that this won't be easy to solve.
The good note was that after I had gotten the kiddo to bed and had joined her in ours, we talked about nothing for a bit and after she had turned out her light and rolled my direction, I thought she was sleepy again and started to read, she said she wasn't that tired to which I promptly got rid of the book and jamma bottoms and we had a very nice time.
So while there was not an earth shattering revelation, I think we may find a way to communicate over this.
Our next marriage counselling session is next Monday, so I'll see what happens then.
"Satisfaction is not guaranteed." Rule #19 Ferengi "Rules of Acquistition"
I spent VD taking care of my sick W and keeping my DD away from her. W would call me on my cell, asking for juice, tea, etc., and I would bring it up to her. Poor DD wanted to see her, but W needed rest. So today, Monday, I am off work, have a list of honeydew jobs, and my W, even though she's sick, has to go into work. I tell her that I am taking DD to babysitter, and she's all "why would you do that when you can spend the day with her?" Okay folks. I just spent 2 full days with no relief taking care of DD (we had fun, but, come on, the house was a disaster.) W said, "you can do the jobs during her nap." I said NO, firmly, took DD to sitter, and it took me four hours to do the jobs. Now, I am going to take my President's Day nap, in honor of Reagan.
