((((artsy))))) I can relate to that the pain comes in waves, and some days are hard.
Detachment is easier if you GAL do things that will occupy (& be good for) you, and which are not linked to your R.
I’ve found exercise - every single day/esp. on hard days - to very helpful and recommend it. I’ve found it to be a really healthy place for me to put frustrations about lack of control, disappointments etc., both about my separation and other challenges. I do it through a class type regime so there’s also a social aspect. But before I had that, I would just run while listening to music or swim at the local pool. You get happy from the fitness and/or the physically tiredness can work against worrying.
The weekend I don’t have D2, I try my best to fill it with activities – even when I don’t feel doing much. It can be as simple as looking around a museum. It also helps to have something to look forward to/think about in the future – e.g. can you plan a trip somewhere in 4/5 months time? Can you have lunch with a friend next week? Sometimes I think, these are hard days, but I will make it to then [date that something is planned]. Charity work is occupying and makes you feel good too.
“When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. Think of it--always.” ― Mahatma Gandhi
