I have had no R talk with my H with the exception of the first few days after the BD. I agree with GoatGal as well.

As far as your dad telling you to let go my guess is that he is having a hard time seeing you hurt, his hope is you'll move on so HE CAN STOP HURTING TOO.

Along with DR I've also read quite a few of Liam Needen's series. Growing in Love for Life?? They are short and to the point for about $3 for my kindle. One of them discusses when the marriage is over...basically when you decide you don't want it any more or you give up trying.

Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since