I know how you feel...I haven't talked about our R with my wife in about maybe a couple of months...but I am noticing changes..and she filed also behind my back but I had a lawyer and he kind of took care of it...just be indifferent with him..thats the advice I got from a vet....
Me: 42 W: 39 D: 2 age 6 and 9 D-Day: Dec 29 13 Seperated: 3/20/14 Mediation retainer : 5/20/14 She filed: 06/25/14