Can one of the goals be that he doesn't bring up D or telling the kids?!?!
I dont think that would be a good goal because you cant control what he does. You might be able to influence it a bit but not to that extent. Set something simple. Maybe for your vacation:
1) Dont bring up the R at all 2) Try some light flirting 3) Have a great time no matter what happens with H
Those are just examples but they have to be something that you can affect.
M:33 W:30 T:10 M:2 B/D: 5/27/14 S: 5/28/14 Wife moved back in 7/18/14